Gay marriage and the church

Pastor Gilbert Owens Kingdom of God Ministries

February 14, 2014

The church has found itself in a dilemma. Or should I say the church has put itself in a dilemma. The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language says a dilemma is a situation that requires a choice between options that are or seem to be equally unfavorably or mutually exclusive.

On the one hand, the church says we should love everybody and treat everyone the way we want to be treated. The church says this also applies to homosexuals and that we should love the person but hate their sexual orientation. As a result, the church, as it should, welcomes all homosexuals into their congregations. Some go so far to say that it is OK for men to marry men and for women to marry women. Many agree with President Obama when he said he has evolved into supporting gay marriages and that we should not condemn or discriminate against a person because of who they fall in love with. Many preachers of the gospel have even concluded it is appropriate for them to perform gay marriages in the church.

On the other hand, the church also says something completely different. The church says homosexuality is a sin and it is an abomination against God. The church says homosexuals should not be members of the church and those who allow them to join do not allow them to sing in the choir, usher, or hold any office in the church. And the church says it is totally against gay marriages and that President Obama is the most liberal President in the history of this country because of his support of gay marriage and gay issues.

As one can surmise from the paragraphs above, it appears the church itself is split on this issue, which is becoming more and more embedded in our culture and society. This issue has caused a split in the Southern Baptists denomination. It has caused upheaval in the Episcopalian denominations. It is now causing an uprising among pastors and lay persons of the United Methodist Church.

The church is further agonized over how society in general looks at this issue. The church sees that the world has become more acceptable to gay marriage. The church sees that gay marriage is now legal in many states. The church sees how the majority of young people readily accept this lifestyle as normal. The church sees how some of the most popular televisions shows depict gay marriages as a normal and acceptable lifestyle. The church sees the enormous support recently given to a football player, who proudly announced he was gay. Large denominations also see that their federal dollars could be in danger if they fail to support gay marriage and those who preside over such marriages.

The church is in a dilemma primarily because it has become something different from the church Christ is building. There is sound doctrine on this issue and there is a solution for the church.

The church must first realize what time it is. We are living in the time spoken of by Paul when he said in 1 Timothy 4:1 that the Holy Spirit clearly says that in latter times many in the church will depart from the faith, (Word of God), giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils. We are also living in the time spoken of by Paul in 2 Timothy 4:3 when he said, “For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears.”

Sound doctrine only comes from God and this is what God says. In Leviticus 20:13 and 1 Corinthians 6:9, God says the practice of homosexuality is a sin and those who continue to practice such sin will surely go to hell. God forbids us to sin more and more, even though grace abounds. It’s OK and courageous to admit that you are gay just like it is OK and courageous to admit that you are an addict. But it is a sin to fulfill the lusts thereof of such conditions. One must have a sincere desire and maintain that desire to stop and to be delivered from the activities associated with the ungodly condition. God will continue to forgive you if and when you slip and fall as long as you admit to Him that it is a sin and express to Him a sincere desire to stop and/or be delivered. Herein lies the devastation of gay marriage. Gay marriage is a statement that says the practice of homosexuality is not a sin and I have no desire to stop regardless of what God says. The acceptance of gay marriage is also a statement that says things have changed now and what the Bible said thousands of years ago does not apply now. Well, God did say, I am the same today, yesterday and forever…I change not!

Pastors who are fighting their denominations for the right to perform gay marriages are giving heed to seducing spirits and the doctrine of devils. I suspect our President evolved into supporting gay marriages because he too, is giving heed to seducing spirits as it relates to this issue. We must never forget that God is the one who created marriage and He is the only one who can make the rules and set the standards for marriage. The standard was set in Genesis 2:23-24 and it is man who is trying to change it, not God.

The church is in a dilemma because it has put itself there by not standing up for the Word of God. The church is in a dilemma because it has allowed itself to be led by the world instead of leading the world. Large denominations are in a dilemma because they have failed to live up to their own doctrines and disciplines. Some individual believers are in a dilemma because they pay more attention to what politicians say and think instead of paying more attention to what God says.

The church must love all homosexuals and treat them equally with all sinners. The best way to love them is to show them what God says and help them to comply with God’s word to the best of their ability. But the church, if it is the church, must draw the line on gay marriage and stand with God. For one thing is perfectly clear, God is not in a dilemma on this issue.