Is your refrigerator filled with save the dates for June? Save the date magnets have become a popular reminder of upcoming special occasions. Creative pictures of a couple planning to be married or dear relatives or friends celebrating milestone birthdays or anniversaries announce their happy occasion. The cool magnets remain stuck on your refrigerator long after the big event has happened. Sometimes, the nifty reminders arrive so early you entirely forget the event until it is over. “Save the date” reminders are wise, especially when we become so over extended that scheduling the important dates for each family member becomes a burden instead of a blessing. Sometimes, we must make choices not to go places when it stretches the family too thin. When overscheduling happens, we should always send a card or make a call to politely decline the invitation…even when there is not an RSVP. Who responds anymore you might ask? If we consider peoples’ feelings and appreciate the kind invite, we all would!
June is the month when wedding bells ring throughout the land. While reading a favorite book of poems, this Prayer for the Bride and Groom quickly got dog eared. The words touched me deeply, with thoughts of the many prayers parents praying for their children when wedding bells are about to ring. Marriage is sacred and special. Solomon says in Ecclesiastes 4:9 “Two are better than one…” A favorite song lyric leaves one with this thought, ‘It’s better when we’re together”! Having someone to share your journey with is a real gift from God. Many widows or widowers reading this still feel the sting of death that took a mate away from this world. Some people read it with the heartache of divorce fresh in their hearts. Other people read it with joy for those who are married and contentment being single. NO matter what your situation, I pray you dwell in love’s rich tranquility with the people God put in your path to share your life with. As you read this prayer poem, think on things that are lovely…
As hand in hand you enter a life that’s bright and new,
May God look down from heaven and bless the two of you;
May He give you understanding enough to make you kind,
So you may judge each other with your heart and not your mind;
May He teach you to be patient as you learn to live together,
Forgiving little ‘human rifts’ that arise in ‘stormy weather’ –
And may your love be big enough to withstand the strongest sea
So you may dwell forever in love’s rich tranquility.
These words can apply to people other than a couple entering marriage. What about an elderly person adjusting to life in a rest home, an exchange student living with a new family, college roommates adjusting to life in a tiny space, a grown up child moving back home, grandchildren living with a grandparent, an elderly parent moving in with a child or moving around from house to house of different children, a foster child adjusting to a new family, a sick person being cared for by a relative? There are many more examples of people learning to live together; this poem can be adjusted to each situation. How are you living your life with the people in your home?
This little poem carries a big challenge for all of us, whether our circumstances are comfortable and splendid or chaotic and sad. While we cannot change others, we can change our ways and walk in love amidst whatever situations we face in the seasons of our life on earth.
We can judge with our hearts, not our minds. We can let little things go without causing hard feelings by getting the last word. We can forgive even when it is hard to do. We can be understanding and work together in unity instead of pulling in different directions with bull headed attitudes and hard hearts. We can love ‘em even though we may not like their ways. We can be positive and say nice things instead of being having a nasty attitude. We can take steps of faith to be the best we can be. We can keep God first and everything else will fall into place.
Save The Date…Be ready at any time for Jesus to take us home!