You have not heard from me since the death of my grandfather on Oct. 8, 2017. My mandatory grieving process is over and you will soon see a more in-depth analysis of my articles relating to the church and the Word of God. But please allow me to share with you what I have learned as it relates to the death of a cherished family member.
The death of a family member clearly causes one to see things in a totally different light. As a matter of fact, as a believer, you enter into a more in-depth view of life because of the light of God that surrounds you during the death of a love one.
Death and God’s expanded light makes you more aware of His presence and your connection to Him. You are now more cognizant of God’s amazing wisdom in shaping and determining the course of your life. He also gives you a better understanding as to why you are who you are and why you act the way you do.
During the initial grieving process you learn very quickly who your friends are and who truly care about you. For example, I was pleasantly surprised at the people who reached out to comfort me during that trying time. I received a phone call of comfort from the former Roseboro town clerk who gave me much needed words of encouragement. I was overwhelmed by the love shown to me and my wife by one of the current town clerks of Roseboro. I was equally surprised and overwhelmed by the love shown to us by those who society calls the “less than desirables.” On the flip side, through this time of loss, I was equally surprised to see how phony some of my so-called friends are, particularly those in the ministry.
The death of a loved one also allows you to understand more clearly how that person has impacted your life. As a result of the death of my grandfather I am now more able to see more of myself in him. I am able to see more clearly why I think like I do and why I react to certain things the way I do. In addition, there are so many things that my grandfather said to me that I initially did not understand but I understand them perfectly now.
The death of a loved one causes you to re-examine your walk and relationship with the Lord. That re-examination causes you to deal with the serious questions of life. Am I truly a faithful servant of the Lord? Am I walking in God’s will for my life? Am I treating everyone the way I want to be treated? And more importantly, will I be ready when my time comes?
The death of a loved one will causes all of us to make a more determined effort to have a closer walk with God no matter what the future may hold. As it has been said by so many, I may not know what tomorrow may bring, but I do know that only God holds tomorrow!!!
Gilbert Owens is a native of Roseboro and a guest columnist for The Sampson Independent.